11:11 Twin Flames: The 8 Stages and Signs

What are Twin Flames exactly? 

Plato said it best as he described, "according to Greek Mythology, humans were originally created with four arms, four legs, and a head with two faces. Fearing their Zeus split them into two separate parts, condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other halves" (The Symposium, Plato).

Twin Flames are what modern day individuals consider as "Soul Mates" today; soul mates are the souls who are considered to be "cut from the same cloth as your own soul," who are meant to help you grow and challenge you, they travel in the same "pack" as you through the lifetimes, constantly by your side. Soul mates are usually your family, closest friends, they help guide you to become your most genuine self, a step in the great staircase that will help you on the way to enlightenment.

One receives many soul mates throughout their life time, because they are meant to teach important life lessons. Many believe that after you've learned the particular lesson from one soul mate, the relationship with them has run it's course - it isn't to say that you learn the lesson and just toss them aside, you just don't feel the same for them anymore, especially romantically. One can meet a soul mate as they would normally, and you may just have them through many life times.

A Twin Flame is that person who is the other half of your own soul who mirrors your own soul back to you, it is one soul energy in two physical bodies who perfectly compliment each other, you both will embody the aspects of Yin and Yang.

For one - usually considered "the chaser" - they feel as if they are finally home, sometimes this will be felt in both persons' souls, sometimes for the other soul - usually called "the runner" - like their world has been completely turned upside-down, but for both souls the relationship will be the most intense relationship one has ever felt in their entire life, it can be quite overwhelming at times and unique for every relationship. They are your ultimate teacher, friend, partner and lover. As the mirror to each other, you will reflect back to them all of their hidden fears and darkest parts while also echo their strength and beauty.

There are several stages to the Twin Flame path to union:
1) Yearning for "The One", 2) Glimpsing "The One", 3) Falling in Love, 4) The Fairy-Tale Relationship, 5) Outer Turmoil and Inner Purging, 6) The Runner and Chaser, 7) Surrender and Dissolution, 8) Oneness.

Stage One: At this stage, you usually spend your entire life looking for "the one," the person who will perfectly complete you, and though you may never date or you go through soul mates you feel that they will appear in your life at some point. It is at this stage that you begin to prepare for the arrival of your Twin on an unconscious level. For some people they are taught to learn to love themselves, for others they develop an awareness, discovery, and understanding of themselves or the things around them in their lives.

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Stage Two: There will be a point in your life in which you will gain an insight of your Twin Flame; this usually occurs through meeting in real life or a vision by dream, but you will have a sense that it is them - at first you might not be sure, but the feeling probably won't leave you. You'll want to get to know this person much better, maybe get to know as much of them as possible or they may be strangely - strange for them - very open to you about certain things, especially difficult things that have happened to them throughout their lives, things they wouldn't normally tell a stranger. Despite this, you feel that they are an exception, that they are special.

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Stage Three: Like Icarus after flying too close to the Sun, when you fall for your person, you fall very hard; it may take you by surprise either because you had never felt so deeply for someone before or you always promised yourself that you would never do something so irresponsible with your heart, in your own eyes. As you get to know your Twin Flame, you fall even more in love with them, which will feel quite unlike who you are. You may try to resist the attraction, telling yourself that it isn't logical or that you were supposed to take things slow, but the pull to being home finally will probably be just too strong.

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Stage Four: The feelings for each other can no longer be held back, the cauldron has been boiling and the only way to turn down the heat is by accepting it. When you begin your relationship, the both of you are perfect for each other in every way! It will appear that your Twin Flame fulfills your every need and makes you feel as if you are floating on Cloud 9 or one step closer to Heaven/Valhalla/the Duat.

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Stage Five: It is at this stage that the Personal Ego begins to awaken and flare up like bad acne. Differences of opinion begin to emerge, personality changes - not everyone will always stay the same but this is definitely different than the person you have come to recently know - and old wounds from the heart of spirit begin to consistently develop. "While our Twin Flames share and mirror our deepest needs, desires, and dreams, they also tend to mirror our Shadow Selves" (Luna). If you tend to hold your emotions back, the dam will break. If you are arrogant and self-righteous, your Twin will be quiet and ambiguous. Where you once perfectly mirrored each other and brought balance, your opposites will now come to light and take over. "In this way our Twin Flames challenge us, riling up our insecurities. This can be infuriating, devastating, and very painful" (Luna). Although this seems like the end of the world, it is necessary for your personal growth, as well as the growth of your Twin Flame union! Without seeing each other for who you both truly are, you will continue to live in a place of illusion - in the honey-moon phase.

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Stage Six: This is the game of cat and mouse, a trial by fire, in which one Twin is the "runner" who runs from their emotions, the intensity of the Twin Flame relationship, and even from the painful things that they could potentially do to hurt their Twin. They withdraw back into themselves and their old bad habits, falling back on what they know rather than delving deeper into their awakening. The "chaser" is not meant to chase after the Twin that has run, despite their title. Instead, they are meant to chase after themselves and their own awakening, down the path that the Universe is leading them towards. Sometimes life takes them onto a completely different path than the one they themselves are on right now, since they tend to be more mentally and emotionally mature of the two at the moment, trying to seek to understand and make amends at times even. There are times that this isn't a physical separation in the Twin Flame relationship, sometimes it's just emotionally or the Twins take a break from each other, other times the Twins separate completely and may even result in the permanent termination of the union. As stated before, this is a trial by fire; this will test both of the Twins as well as the relationship. While apart, it is up to the Twins to mature their souls by themselves, which can be as long as months or even years.

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Stage Seven: "After so much anguish, distress, and provocation, you both begin to open up about your wounds and insecurities" (Luna). This is when the both of you have set your pride and ego aside, you have become more aware of your faults, where you went wrong, and how you can strengthen your relationship and work together through your difficulties.

Stage Eight: "In stage eight it is common for you to both find a shared meaning, passion, or cause that brings you a mutual sense of fulfillment" (Luna). You both will begin to be sensitive to forgiveness, empathy, and especially patience. This is the stage in which the ego will die as you reach a form of enlightenment by working together and see that it becomes easier to do - especially when it comes to communicating and enjoy miraculous work.

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Twin Flame Signs

There are many signs that will help you to distinguish if you have, indeed, found your twin flame. Somethings are not coincidence.

• You feel a strange and peculiar sense of "recognition" when you meet, as if you have finally come home, or you feel a sense of deja vu. 
• You established an immediate and deeply intense connection with each other that shocks either just you or the both of you.
• Again, you feel like you have finally found a home or that you finally came home.
• You embody the aspects of Yin and Yang, your darkness is balanced by their light and their light is balanced by your dark - or vice versa.
• You have the feeling that they are extremely important to you without even knowing why, when, or how.
• They make you a better person, even in the smallest ways; they help you to be happier, optimistic, or more responsible. 
• You both are attuned to each others' energy and can telepathically communicate or just tell if there's something wrong. What this means is you both are connected to each others' spiritual consciousness, and have a high level of empathy towards  what they are feeling. This could be you know what the other is thinking before they say anything, or you know what each other is feeling. This can include knowing when they are talking or thinking about you, or when they push you away.
• You both have connected deeply and echo each others' aspirations and core values for life.
• Your childhoods were opposites or even polar opposites.
• One of you is more aware and spiritually mature than the other and will serve as the teacher, counselor, or confidant in the relationship to help them become more aware - just be careful not to turn into an enabler. 
• You are taught important life lessons, as well as they are; this can include patience, empathy, forgiveness, open-mindedness, and gratitude. 
• Your connection is multi-faceted. Meaning, your Twin is your best friend, teacher, lover, nurturer, and muse all in one.
• Your Twin Flame doesn't try to change, rather they accept who you are and encourage you to grow into the person you want to be or they see that you can be.
• You can tell each other the truth about anything, no matter how painful.
• The both of you - or even just the aware one - feels driven towards a higher purpose.
• You may be able to remember past life memories with this person, and recall vivid details from your previous experiences together.
• Despite sharing the same soul, your Twin and you could share significant differences that balance each other out; this could be in personality, demeanor, likes and dislikes, and even dreams
• When you first came together, you were probably in a relationship already or was healing from a relationship that had just ended, and either one of you or both just didn't feel prepared to come together quite yet.
• Despite the hardships of life, you both continue to evolve together and make each other better.
• Your Twin takes you to new depths of your souls that you never knew existed before meeting them. They may even show you a light to your darkness that you never thought you would deserve, and it will be scary, but also thrilling.
• No matter what annoys you or your Twin about each other, there are certain things - bad habits or personality traits - that you overlook, because of your unconditional love for them.
• Due to your instant connection, your relationship may move pretty fast or be rushed - this isn't necessarily a bad thing, it could just be that you both are ready to make up for lost time, don't fight the flow, but do try to not move too fast.

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There is just so much to this wonderful Union, so much information, so much intensity. When I discovered that I was in my own Twin Flame union, I thought I was crazy; I looked to my sister for advice and she thought I was crazy too, since neither one of us had ever had a relationship similar to this at all. Many people told me, when my Twin and I had reached the Separation Stage, that I should let him go and give up on him, but in my heart of hearts it felt wrong. Instead of taking my anger, frustrations, and stress on him and blaming him for everything, I sought to understand, to learn as much as I could about this Twin Flame union, to see where we both potentially went wrong and where we got it right.

I will be making a series of posts committed to the Twin Flame relationship so that others who are in a position such as myself to seek to understand. You didn't do wrong; you loved deeply and completely, but if you are the Chaser, such as myself, you just felt too deeply and your Twin Flame Runner wasn't ready to experience it all as fully as you were. This doesn't mean you were in the wrong or that they were in the wrong, it just means you both weren't ready for the full experience of this beautiful and spiritual union. That is why you are going through the stages of separation, to focus on yourself and to raise your own spiritual vibrations. 

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The Magick of this Blog - Always Seek More Knowledge

SEEK TO UNDERSTAND

As a witch with my own personal beliefs, I reflect those such beliefs on this blog; no one has to like my understanding of the beliefs taught to me, but no one should get upset, instead, seek to understand. The goal of a witch is to understand, to always seek knowledge.

This blog does not specifically stick to the ways of only white magick, nor does this blog entirely encase itself in black magick either. Instead, it practices the ways of magick of all colors! I personally believe that a witch must have an idea and understanding of each type of magick that is in this natural world so that they can decide more fully which magick is best suited for themselves and not discriminate against any other color of magick. Like a past post that I wrote several years ago, black magick is not entirely bad just as white magick is not entirely good.

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“To me, a witch is a woman that is capable of letting her intuition take hold of her actions, that communes with her environment, that isn't afraid of facing challenges.” 

― Paulo Coelho

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Not only does a witch need to seek to understand the different colors of magick, but they need to learn how and when to hex just as much as how and when to heal. Hexing can be a positive thing in certain situations; you can bind a person who is bothering you, push for someone to leave your friends alone, hex the person that physically or sexually assault you, the person that is bullying you can get a piece of their own medicine, etc. Yes, karma does play a huge role in the Universe - do unto others bit, and what goes around comes around - but sometimes karma needs a little push or just some help, maybe she needs to know that this person does need some medicine or they really do need some punishment.

Now, I don't advocate that you go around hexing people you feel deserve punishment or has been slightly unfair, not at all. Hexing must be done with the understanding that it is in a just way, that it is truly deserved, and your Gods or spirit guide(s) must agree too. They will understand that whatever was done to you was possibly because it was a lesson that you needed to learn and so the person probably doesn't deserve retribution, other times what a person did to you - e.g., rape, stole your life savings, advocates for hate, etc. - truly deserves punishment and torment, hell on earth.

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“A Witch is born out of the true hungers of her time,” she said. “I was born out of New York. The things that are most wrong here summoned me. ("Drink Entire: Against The Madness Of Crowds")” 

― Ray Bradbury, Long After Midnight

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A witch holds the power of the Universe, is made with star dust and natural magick,, they have the power to influence the weather and speak to the dead, the power to find true inner peace, and so much more! There is no limit to a witch's power except when they doubt themselves! We can speak and commune with Gods and spirits, we find power in the natural Earth as well as the stars and planets out in the Universe. We can do and be anything we want!

So go out there, sisters and brothers! Accept your powers! Embrace your feminism! Embrace your masculinity! Teach yourself and research as much as you can possibly get your hands on! Then, go help others! Help them to understand, to embrace themselves - even when others won't.

Candle Magic and Colors

Hey everyone! I know that most of you have at least ONE candle in your house, and if that is true then that is great! In this post I, and a few sites that I have borrowed information from, will explain to you what exactly candle magic is and how to use it. Most of the spells and rituals you will use will need to have the use of candles and I will explain the colors so that you know when to use the right color for the right spell. Let's get started!

One of the simplest of magical arts which comes under 
the heading of natural magic is candle burning.  It is simple 
because it employs little ritual and few ceremonial 
artifacts.  The theatrical props of candle magic can be 
purchased at any department store and its rituals can be 
practiced in any sitting room or bedroom.

Most of us have performed our first act of candle magic 
by the time we are two years old.  Blowing out the tiny 
candles on our first birthday cake and making a wish is pure 
magic.  This childhood custom is based on the three magical 
principles of concentration, will power and visualization.  
In simple terms, the child who wants his wish to come true 
has to concentrate (blow out the candles), visualize the end 
result (make a wish) and hope that it will come true( will 
power).

The size and shape of the candles you use is 
unimportant, although highly decorative, extra large, or 
unusually shaped candles will not be suitable as these may 
create distractions when the magician wants to concentrate on 
the important work in hand.  Most magicians prefer to use 
candles of standard or uniform size if possible.  Those which 
are sold in different colors for domestic use are ideal.

The candles you use for any type of magical use should 
be virgin, that is unused.  Under no circumstances use a 
candle which has already adorned a dinner table or been used 
as a bedroom candle or night-light.  There is a very good 
occult reason for not using anything but virgin materials in 
magic.  Vibrations picked up by secondhand materials or 
equipment may disturb your workings and negate their 
effectiveness.

Some magicians who are artistically inclined prefer to
make their own candles for ritual and magical use.  This is a 
very practical exercise because not only does it impregnate 
the candle with your own personal vibrations, but the mere 
act of making your own candle is magically potent.  
Specialist shops sell candle wax and molds together with 
wicks, perfumes, and other equipment.

Now that we have a good understanding of candles, lets look at what the colors mean.

Red:  Energy, Strength, Sexual Potency, Physical Desire, Passion and Love, Will Power, Overcoming Fear or Laziness, Courage, Health,  Strength, Vigor, Protection Against Psychic Attack.

Green:  Abundance and Generosity, Good Fortune, Material Success, Ambition, Renewal, Marriage, Balance, Communication with nature spirits, Money, Fertility, Finance,  Healing, Luck.

Yellow:  Intellect, Imagination, Intelligence, Creativity, Confidence, Gentle Persuasion, Attraction, Charm, Confidence, Concentration, Inspiration, Mental Clarity, Knowledge, Commerce, Medicine, Counseling, Healing, Protection.

Gold:  Good Fortune, Intuition, Understanding, Divination, Fast Luck, Financial Gain, Attracts Higher Influences, Money, Knowledge, Healing, Happiness.

Pink:  Associated with the Purest form of True Love, Friendship, Affection, Romance, Spiritual Awakening and Healing, Banishing Hatred, Honor,  Love, Morality.

Orange:  Prosperity, Creativity, Enthusiasm, Success, Stamina and Energy, Mental Agility, Sudden Changes, Adaptability, Attraction, Encouragement, Stimulation. It dissuades laziness,  Changes Luck.
A very powerful color, be prepared to face major changes if you use it.

White:  Purity, Sincerity, Truth, Spirituality, Greater Attainments in Life,  Wholeness, Higher Power, Contacting Spirit Helpers, Balancing Auras, Confusing Enemies, Helping Pregnancy or Birth, Raising Vibrations, Repelling Destructive Energy.  Whenever in doubt about a candle color, white is a safe choice.  It is a highly balanced spiritual hue.

Blue (light):  Truth, Inspiration, Wisdom, Protection, Good Health, Patience, Tranquility, Understanding, Happiness, Inner Peace, Fidelity,  Harmony, Getting in Contact with Higher Self.

Blue (royal):  Happiness, Loyalty, Group Success, Occult Power, Expansion. 


Blue (dark):  Changeability, Conquering Depression, Impulsiveness.

Purple:  Success, Idealism, Higher Psychic Ability, Wisdom, Spiritual  Protection and Healing, Honor, Spirit Contact, Breaking Bad Luck or Hexes,  Driving Evil Away, Divination, Greater Magical Knowledge, Ambition,  Business Progress, Power, Success in Legal Matters, Business  Success, Influencing people who hold power over you.

Violet:  Healing, Peace, Spirituality.

Indigo:  Meditation, Neutralizing Someone Else's Magic, Balancing Karma,  Stop Gossip, Lies, or Undesirable Competition.

Magenta: Speeding things up, Rapid Change, Spiritual Healing.

Silver (Light Grey):  Victory, Stability, Meditation Aid, Developing Psychic Ability, Blocking Negativity from Outside Sources, Protection from Destructive Forces,  Counteracting Bad Luck, Neutrality, Stalemate.

Black: Absorbs and Removes Anything; Reversing, Uncrossing, Binding Negative Forces, Protection, Releasing, Breaking Blockages, Un-sticks Stagnant Situations.

Brown:  Attraction of Money, Abundant Growth in the Garden, Concentration, Balance, ESP, Intuition, Study, Communicate with Nature, Helps to Banish Hesitation, Neutrality & Uncertainty.







Information for this post came from http://www.sacred-texts.com/bos/bos104.htm and http://www.keen.com/CommunityServer/UserBlogPosts/Empress_Tarot/The-Colors-of-Candle-Magic/150561.aspx

White Magic vs. Black Magic

Good morning my fellow Pagans/Neo-Pagans/Visitors!!! Right now I am in this wonderful Cafe on Main Street and it's just an excellent place, because I have just been served bagels and milk! I know that's not why all of you decided to read this post, but I just wanted to share that really cool fact. Anyway, I bet all of you, especially you, are here because of this post's title. Yes, there is such thing as good magic and bad magic, it's just the way you use magic that makes it what it is. So, before I get into some spells that help to explain white magic and black magic, let's explain the two contrasts.

White Magic

What is white magic and what makes it white? At the heart all magic is the same and has no color, however, it is common today to believe that different types of magic has different color.
Different colors in magic have been made common place due to their use in movies, television and video games. Typically colors like red or pink are love magic, green is for money and wealth, black is evil and white is good.
When people talk about white magic, then generally refer to healing and helping magic spells. Keeping your spellbook color-coded, red for love spells, green for money, black for death and white for healing is fairly common but not required. An important thing to remember is that all magic is magic, and there really is no such thing as evil magic or good magic.

What is White Magic?

Today, most people consider healing and health spells to be white magic. It is not any more or less difficult than black magic, and even white magic spells can have consequences.
The following spells are generally accepted as white magic spells:

• Enchanting Spells
• Friendship Spells
• Truth Spells
• Cure Spells
• Diet Spells
• Healing Spells
• Health Spells
• Defense Spells
• Dream Spells
• Peace Spells
• Protection Spells
• Warding Off Spells
• Baby Spells
• Fertility Spells
• Growing Spells

Black Magic

You may ask, what is black magic? There are many debates as to what exactly is black magic and how it is different than white magic, or any other color magic you may have heard of.In the simpliest terms, all magic is the same and really had no color, but the media, movies, television and video games has made color magic very popular. In the media, black magic is portrayed as evil, white as good. Red is often seen as love magic, green as money or wealth.
Such a division of magic into colors is useful, you can color-code your own spell code, writing love spells on red or pink paper and make them easy to find, but in reality this division of color does not really exist, the 'magic' is the same for all these spells and rituals.

So what is Black Magic then?

Real practitioners consider spells which fight against, or try to manipulate free will as black magic. Because these spells try to influence the normal life of others they can become pretty dangerous if they backfire. Free will is considered by some as the strongest force in nature so care should definately be taken when dealing in the dark arts.
The line between what can be considered back magic is fuzzy though. Love spells are rarely seen as black magic, but if the spell makes someone leave their spouce and travel across the country to be with you you are definatly messing with free will. However, a simple crush spell to get a date doesn't really mess with their free will.
No matter how you decide to define black magic, the following are generally considered as black magic spells:

• Death Spells
• Hurt Spells
• Resurrection Spells
• Banishing Spells
• Binding Spells
• Conjuring Spells
• Energy Spells
• Nightmare Spells
• Power Spells
• Revenge Spells
• Bad Luck Spells
• Misfortune Spells

On the next post, we'll get more into colors and what they mean, especially when you use candles! Blessed be!

Information for this post came from www.spellsofmagic.com

Witch's Book of the Dead by Christian Day

So I read this really good book and I thought that I should probably introduce you to it a bit.

Christian Day's book of the Dead is really informational and creative. It tells the lore of death and interesting ways that a witch can get connected to the other side, but there are warnings that you should not ignore. Some of the spells and rituals are simple and require meditation (something you should consider on doing), but remember not to mess with the dead. Even though you will be able to communicate with them, the dead require life, a sacrifice to get what you require. This doesn't mean that you have to sacrifice someone else's life or an animal, no it just means that you'll be giving up a bit of your life energy. Since you'll be doing that, you have to keep yourself healthy and energized (not with monsters!) But I guess I'll explain more when I buy the book.

After reading the book it just got me really interested into what I think I should do in my practices. I've really been connected to the dead, meaning it's really affected me in negative and positive ways, and it has just really fascinated me. Anyway, I should think on this a little more, but it's just a thought.

Question for you:
Who do you believe is your God patron? Remember, you don't have to pick a God from your region or your culture. It can be any that you want, or you don't have to pick one (though it would be helpful to have one). On my next post I'll explain more about the God and Goddess and the Gods. Have a good week everyone!